friendtiquettes…!

was one thing i never thought id have to deal with at  this point in my life…. for the longest time, ive been with friends whom ive know for almost half of my life now….though my work gives me the opportunity to meet new people and perhaps build friendships with them, (or even more… for a very few ) i never had that much difficulty to see through them.. maybe because i was so transparent from the very beggining and so what you see is what you get.. in fact, i get in trouble because of being too honest… no regrets though.

its sad when you get betrayed, it was never a pleasant thing anyways, but its much sadder and uglier if the other person doesn't even realize how much damage she has done to you…. or even if you already make her realize it, she still won't admit something went wrong… that yeah, she wasn't perfect at all.  In the course of my friendship with her,  I learned many things… i hope she did the same…. (wishful thinking lindsay)…… sheesh…

so for our friendtiquettes…! If you are new in a group, here are some tips for you…

(1) Know what your relationship status is… by heart.  If you are single, meaning you are unattached, not committed, currently dating but not exclusive, fresh out of break up with slight backsliding but not officially back together….  If you belong to this category, you CAN and MUST meet any men you want.. Considering —- he's of the same category.  Otherwise….(see item 3)

(2) If you are committed, in a relationship, married, living in with someone, happy or not, then I suggest you stick it out with that special someone you are with now.  I am sorry — you cannot and must not flirt nor get seriously involved with anyone else.  Otherwise….. (refer to item 3)

(3) If you are single and prefers to be the 3rd party, then you just have to learn how to live with this rule — take the crap and dont complain.  If you are committed and still wants another person, then learn how to live with this rule —- leave no trace of your mess. If its just sex, better mean it.

(4) If you are unhappy with your current relationship — admit it.  Stop telling the world how miserable your life is with that person…. worse, don't create a imaginary monster out of your partner.  This simply tells the world how you describe your ownself.  Deal with it, and decide.  Never use this as a reason to mess up other people's lives… nor an excuse to hurt other people…. trust me, you will end up being ALONE.

(5) Don't shop for what you cannot afford.  If you cannot keep up with the lifestyle, drop it.  Your friends will love you more if you are true to yourself.  Can't afford the beach trip….. just enjoy the sun. Its that simple.

(6) Its not always about you.  The world does not belong to you.  If you have a problem with patience, you have to know that you can either shut up and try to work on it or deal with how the world will treat you.  The world owes you nothing. 

(7) If you have nothing good to say, ZIP it.

(8) If you have a problem zipping it, then die of hyperventilation or heart attack. I don't fucking care.

(9) If you finished college, or perhaps even Highschool, then I bet you got good manners.  If not, ask your parents why. 

(10) Good manners isn't always about saying the magic words (that's how mama would call it — such as thank you, please, etc) Good manners is about doing the right thing without having to think too much about it.  To stress it out, its doing the right thing using your common sense.  Example, if its not yours, don't own it… no, don't even pretend.

(11) Be smart.  Be assertive.  Anything overboard is annoying. 

(12) If youre not a whore nor a hooker, don't dress like one.  If its your sought-after career, deal with the consequences. 

(13) Your friends are no pimp unless, otherwise, you are item #12.  All else, you just got a supportive friend. 

(14) If you hit the club, remember rule #1 — if you wanna have fun, make sure you know how to clean up your mess after.  There's no such thing as "just dancing" — its either club dancing or dry sex dancing.  Oh yeah, there is such thing. 

(15) If its your friend's date — hands off.  No matter how much you drool over him or her, its not yours, and yeah refer to item #10.  Its taboo to be a date hugger.

(16) If youre in a party, then be at the party.  Don't go elsewhere, don't take a shower or a bubble bath, don't take a long phone call nor spend the whole night texting.  Manners? Get it?

(17) Don't ditch plans on the last minute…. and I mean last minute…. its so freaking annoying….. and if you do this, better not ask "are you guys mad at me" unless youre ready to get slapped. (haha)

(18) If your friends tell you that he's not into you, don't insist.  Theyre not kidding. 

(19) If you found out he's into someone else, be happy.  Your thoughts don't matter anyway.  Just don't steal the scene.  Its never pretty.

(20) If you feel something is wrong — have the balls to TALK.  No, chatting doesn't count.  Don't text or chat your friends and say "I am sorry, I wanna put this all behind me now"  don't say "if you have questions, just ask me ok?" — its not always your call… I am sorry.  Don't just feel it, sit down and deal with it.

The list can go on but ill keep it at 20.  As if this is not enough to teach you some damn lesson.

Its true, you gain some, you lose some.  But those you gain, arent always bound to be lost.

Cheers to happy and true friendships!

:)
L